Many people believe that online dating helps with social anxiety because of the anonymity. I disagree with that, as I believe it is the opposite and can actually make a person with social anxiety feel worse. If you suffer from social anxiety, you may be thinking about signing up for an online dating site or perhaps becoming a member of a local dating site.
If you are dating online, you should know that you need to do some extra steps to increase your safety while dating someone. Some of the steps include:
Don’t use the online chat feature: There are sites out there that allow you to email the person you are emailing with in order to set up a time for a face to face meeting. A lot of people think this is a good thing but some sites do not allow this.
Don’t send email to a person if you don’t want to meet them: Do you want to meet someone you haven’t met before? If you are worried about a potential date, send a short email to that person and see what happens.
Make sure the email address you use for the email is safe and secure: The email address you use should be different from the one you use for your other social media accounts. This ensures that the person can’t get your password and steal your information. Make sure the email address you use for your online dating profile has a great security rating.
Use a burner phone: Make sure your contact list is limited to only people you know and trust. Keep in mind the number of people you have on your contact list is the same as the number of people who you meet with each day.
Give your contact numbers to friends: You want to meet with people who can give you special numbers so you can give them easy access to your information. After all, if you give out their contact information then it will be much easier for you to get your own phone and to call them for dates.
Make sure the person you are dating has no anxiety about dating: Some people just aren’t comfortable with meeting strangers. If a person you are dating has anxiety problems or even just a slight panic attack, you need to make sure they have nothing to worry about.
You will have to show that you are open and honest with your dates and at the same time, you should have fun while dating someone who suffers from social anxiety. Be careful not to make a bad first impression when you meet them and it’s also important to know that you can meet people whom you will eventually want to date.
Don’t use another person’s email addresses: Use only the email address that you want people to know your name and that you want to meet them. Never allow others to read your email messages or to send messages to your contacts that you don’t want them to read.
Create lists for yourself: It is always best to create a “quota” list for yourself. If you find that you have plenty of free time and other members of your online dating service are available at any given time you should create a separate “favorites” list.
Does online dating help with social anxiety? No, it does not, but if you take these simple precautions and you follow the tips mentioned above, you will find it much easier to date and find someone who has social anxiety.